Have you ever heard the old saying, "If you don't ask, you don't get!"? It's well worth taking heed of because far too many of us are afraid to ask for the things we need in order to succeed in life. Asking questions can open doors and bring to us the opportunities that without doubt are already out there. So why do we find it so hard? The chances are that if you went to a good school you were always encouraged to ask questions. If you didn't quite understand what the teacher was telling you the only way to get it was to ask the meaning. As a Dad I certainly urge my sons to ask questions, it's the only way to learn.
But maybe as a child it's easy to say you don't understand and accept that you don't know something. Then it's easy to do something about it, ask for help and find the solution. But sadly as we get older we stop asking! Maybe it's because we feel that as adults we should know what things mean and how to do them and so we don't want to appear foolish, particularly in front of our friends, family or work colleagues. Or perhaps we have just stopped caring enough to want to learn new things and gain new experiences. It's sad, because when you do start to ask you usually start to get! Sure, we all ask for things every day. We have to when we go shopping, go to the cinema, or go to a restaurant.
But we only ask for the simple things! Take that last example. When you go to a restaurant and see something on the menu that is unfamiliar do you ask the waiter what it is? Congratulations if you do, but most people will simply pass it over and stick with what they know. That's an opportunity lost! And how many times, when in conversation with a group of people has something been mentioned that you don't understand? Instead of saying so and asking for an explanation it's so easy to just stay quiet and stay ignorant. Another chance wasted! It's true isn't it? You just don't want to appear foolish. Well it's time to change! If you really want to move forward then you need to learn new things every day.
You need to broaden your horizons, take on new experiences and discover all you need to get where you want to be. So start asking. Ask what things mean, how to do them, and above all ask for the things you want in life. The fact is that one of the keys to good conversation is asking questions. People won't think you're dumb or get annoyed.
Instead they'll warm to you and you'll soon find that you are gaining all sorts of benefits. So don't be afraid to raise questions. Ask especially about the topics that you need to find out about to help you to achieve your goals. Ask why, ask who, ask what. All those questions will get people talking and you'll soon to start to learn lots of new facts and information.
You'll gain new knowledge and you'll discover new opportunities that will bring success to your life. And don't ever be afraid to ask for help. So why not start right now by asking yourself some searching questions. Ask what it is you really want in life and what you need to do to get it. Search inside to find what will really bring you the happiness and fulfillment you desire.
Because if you don't know what motivates you then you won't get to where you want to be. So ask, and very soon you will begin to "get"!.
This article was written by Tony Hall who runs his own business dedicated to helping individuals develop their personal and business skills. You can learn more about how to develop your own life skills by signing up for his weekly newsletter at: http://www.selfimprovementskills.com/newsletter.html
