No one in their right mind wants to fail, we all would like to think that we strive to be the best we can be. So why is it that some people seemingly fail over and over again. In order for us to avoid the pain of failure the most logical way is to find out why people fail and avoid it like the plague. 1. Putting things off.
The most common thing you see people do who fail is that they keep putting things off that they really need to do. Instead of doing what is important right now at this moment which will get them one step closer to attaining their goals they instead pick something else to occupy their time. Usually this is something that is easy, less stressful or something just to do to occupy their time so that they don't need to think about what they ought to be doing instead. They fail to see that being busy and being productive are two totally unrelated concepts and being busy won't necessarily get you closer to completing your goal.
2. They defeat themselves before they even begin. Can you imagine if you had a child and they fell down a few times while trying to ride a bike. What if that child then said that they just weren't meant to ride a bike and quit.
You would think that would be ridiculous as you sometimes need to fall a few times before eventually getting it right. Well people who fail do exactly that in life. They tell themselves that they can't do this or that they don't deserve to have that and all of a sudden they have defeated themselves without evening trying. You have to realize that success well earned is through learning from you small setbacks.
Without the setbacks how can you ever truly appreciate the successes. So instead of telling yourself why you can't tell yourself why you absolutely must. 3. They see failure as the end instead of the beginning.
As with the above point most failures fall down and find that it was such a terrible experience that they now go out of their way to avoid going through such an experience ever again. If only they realized that by falling they actually fell forward meaning they were at least moving that one step closer to their eventual goal. To succeed is not so much a matter of whether you failed somewhere along the line or not but whether you got up stronger for it and carried on.
4. They take on too much. People who fail tend to take on too much at the one time. They someone perceive themselves as the ultimate juggler taking one far too much responsibility and eventually when one ball drops the rest follow suit. Instead of trying to be a jack of all trades you need to become acquainted to becoming a master at delegation.
You only have so much hours in a day so why not leverage that by delegating tasks that you aren't competent in or tasks that you don't enjoy to someone who is better suited for it. This will free up more of your time to do the things that you are good at and therefore increasing your odds of succeeding. 5. They don't have a plan. People who fail just don't have a clear enough plan to where they want to go. Without the plan how can you possibly know when you get there.
By writing a clear, concise plan you can have more conviction about your decisions and more confidence in what you are doing. You can also be more accountable about where you are now and where you ought to be at any particular point in time. Overall a well written plan is an absolute must for any success in life. Imagine being an potential Olympic athlete with four years to train before the next Olympics.
What if you had no plan for a training regime and just winged it day to day hoping that by the time you started competition you'd be ready. I don't know about you but I don't know many gold medal winning athletes who got there without a plan to succeed. Now that you have an idea of what to avoid you can better equip yourself to the road to success.
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